One of the things I find for people who are working on raising the vibration of their own (and the world’s) energy, is that sometimes being with family can be a challenge-- especially when they tend to get stuck in what feels like lower-vibrational conversation like complaining, judging, picking on someone, etc.
But here’s the thing about lower-vibration conversation: We don’t have to match it. Instead, we can compassionately interrupt it.
If we walk into a situation like that and we go right into “Oh, these people aren’t doing it right and how can I change it?” we can end up with a lot of discomfort and unnecessary conflict. We don’t want to think that we’re better than-- or assume that we know what’s best for-- other people. But we can absolutely change the game.
On the one hand, it’s important to remember that your family members are divine beings who are connected to Source and are perfect as they are. You don’t need them to change for you in that moment.
And, on the other hand, it’s important to not give into or lower your vibration FOR them.
You don’t have to lower your vibration to “get through” being around familiy. There’s a middle path: The Energy Ninja Path.
Being an Energy Ninja means actually looking at the situation and considering what you could put on the table in this melting pot of energy that could ripple things into a higher vibration.
For example: If a couple of people are harping on someone and questioning their actions (Things like "Why are you getting divorced?" or
"Why are you sending your kids to private school?"... Anything, really!), can you say something compassionate like, “You know, I really trust that this is the decision that [Name] needs to be making right now. I don’t necessarily understand it, but I trust that they’ve got this.”
That’s what I call Energy Ninja-ing the situation, because an Energy Ninja is somebody who knows that everything is energy and that, in every moment, we are carving our space with our thoughts, words and actions. You don’t have to match what feels like a lower vibration to you.
You can ELEVATE everyone by seeing their highest and speaking to it in a way that isn’t making other people wrong, that isn’t about being “right,” or acting “more spiritual” than everyone else... But we can meet people by speaking truth into the container. And maybe you don’t even have to speak a whole lot-- maybe it’s one truth bomb that sends a ripple out into the energy field.
But no matter what, YOU get to choose in every moment. Notice your choice, notice that you’re the creator of your experience, and know that you don’t have to match lower vibrations to engage with family.